OK, this is a question out to you ladies. Please help us guys understand this little quirk of yours and answer this simple question: Why the hell can you all not take a compliment? If it is not suspicion that we are up to something it is some archaic belief that we must need glasses, are drunk, half-asleep or something else. DW and I have been together for almost either years now yet she still cannot take a compliment. She always appears shocked or bewildered that I am seeing her like I do. Are you all missing the gene that understands that we see you, our partners, like no one else does and therefore if we say you look good, smell good, or we really want you now that it simply is to be believed to be true?
We all know what would happen if guys answered your questions (i.e. Does this make me look fat?) the way comedians have dared us to do for years. There would be an immediate rise in 9-11 calls for sure. How about simply accepting the fact that you do look good to us even when you don't look good to you? How about accepting the fact that it does not matter that you have grown older, we have grown older with you and that is the best part of being with you? How about simply saying "thanks" and nothing else when the compliment is paid?
I welcome your enlightenment on this ever confusing topic.
Peace.
1 comment:
This is an easy yet difficult answer, my friend.
You see, almost from birth, society teaches women that we are supposed to be one way: tall, beautiful, long hair, svelt and sexy. At. All. Times.
Look at the women on TV. We are constantly and consistently inundated with the "ideal woman". Men - those we grow up with, those we date and, yes, those we eventually marry, are drawn to the Playmates, Sports Illustrated swimsuit models, movie stars and television icons that reinforce these expectations in us. It may be subtle, but women are measuring ourselves by that societal yardstick and it has devastating results.
As well, many of us learned that to say "Thank you" to a compliment is seen as egotistic and self-centred...and we all know that good girls are neither of these things, but rather should always strive to reach those impossible goals set for us by TV and our families and friends.
I could go on about biology and how women often strive to "make things better" even if they're not broken, but suffice to say we're just always harder on ourselves than you are, simply because that's the way we've been brainwashed to be.
More on this over drinks on the 8th, okay?
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